Thursday, September 29, 2005

My one and perhaps only HNT




I've always been a skinny guy. And while many would consider this a superior situation to being fat, the same kinds of comments are made, except when you're skinny, people will say them to your face. Things like "string bean", "cricket boy", "spaghetti arms" and the like.

True, I can pretty much eat my fill of whatever without gaining weight, and this fills some people with bitterness. But this is no reason for name calling.

Anyway, gay men are notoriously "package" oriented. Skinny and fat are both bad. So it was that I started working out back in my 20's trying to get that body to go with my face and other notable features.(wink) I bulked up, trained incessantly, crammed creatine and sundry other supplements and put some meat on my bones. The trouble was that I attracted the most superficial people. And I started to realize that the most avid bodybuilders were often the shallowest and most vapid. (and I believe, those with the lowest self-esteem)

Just watch, that drop dead gorgeous and super buff guy across the street is more likely to be checking his reflection out in the shop windows than noticing you on the other side of the street. When I see this, I think, "You look unbelievably beautiful, why do you keep checking yourself out?" The only logical conclusion is that they don't feel too secure about themselves.

So for the past few years, I have stopped trying to get bigger and content myself with the "swimmer's body" (which really means skinny but cute anyway) and maintain it. No more supplements now, just a healthy hour workout twice a week, hitting all the body parts. And I avoid seeing my reflection except in the morning getting ready.

34 comments:

Kalani said...

You hit the nail on the head, I couldn't agree more with everything you had to say. And why wouldn't you come back for more HNT, for shame! HNT is where it's at and you sir have a lot to offer! Could I beg? ;)

The Wisdom of Wislon said...

lost for words ;-)

_Psycho said...

Skinny but no belly, thats the important part of the apparence for me ;)

Still If I were not that lazy, I would probably train a bit to get a "shape de plage" (beach shape?).

The only thing that is cool is that like you I can eat anything and never gain a pound !

Rachel said...

I agree with Kalani, and why in the world would you avoid seeing that at any opportunity? Very sexy! ;)

Hope you continue to play with the crazy crowd that is HNT.

Jenny said...

Aww, you should do HNT some more! Nice shot!

warcrygirl said...

When I first saw the pic (before reading) my first thought was "Oh yeah, that's NICE!" I personally like the swimmer's physique; toned but not bulky. I always believe men who bulk up to grotesque proportions had little minkies. I personally tried to not date any man who's hair was prettier than mine and it served me well.

Happy HNT!

The Wisdom of Wislon said...

My dad bless him is a hairy monster of the viking kind, so I think I subconsciously like hair free types.

katehopeeden said...

Yum.
That is all.
Happy HNT :)
~K

Femi-mommy said...

nice pic - and glad you are being ok with you. happy hnt

Osbasso said...

Welcome to HNT! Great first shot.

I've got you listed on the Nekkid roll. Stop by and check out the rest of the half-nekkid people!

Scott & Julia said...

That is a great shot and body! Happy HNT and welcome to the madness :)

clara* said...

you look FABULOUS. seriously mmm mmm good, happy hnt!

Leesa said...

Looks Great!

cmhl said...

you look fabulous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lecram sinun said...

swimmer's body rocks! cheers and happy hnt!

Lil Bit said...

what the hell are you talking about??? You're GORGEOUS!
Happy HNT! =)

Dantallion said...

I've always been a fan of the swimmers bod. Nice pic.

St. Dickeybird said...

Ummm, yeah. I agree with what everyone else here is saying.
:)

littlefeet said...

umm...yeah...

its workin for me... :)

peace...

epicurist said...

I wouldn't ever dare say someone is "fat" or "disshevelled". Yet, it seems that people feel they have the right to call us "skinny" or "rakes", simply because they think it is less derogatory. Great post...and pic.

addict said...

Ooh....
It's a great post!

Conan said...

well I work out five days a week but its necessery...with all the beer I drink with psycho I need to let some calories out lol

But it's hard work to get a nice "beach body" I weight 235 pounds and I'm not fat so most of it is muscle but it's very very hard to trim the ABS part...

SO good work torn and keep it up =)

t said...

Wow, you got a lot of attention with THIS post!
My wife would NEVER let me look this good for fear some younger girl will lust after me.
Hmmm, if my body looks 3/4 as good as this and I post a photo, I figure I can get 17.25 comments.
Something to think about......

*My_mothers_daughter* said...

HI.... lol great pic happy hnt
*stud--dering*

MG said...

nice first pic, you should stick around

Adam said...

You've made a great observation, one that I think is somehow in the back of all our minds. I have to protest thought that I am an exception to the general rule that he who lifts weights is vapid and vain. I keep myself pretty built and I love to look at the men and I'd be looking at you across the street for sure!

farmboyz said...

Hot.
And with a brain.
Dangerous combination.
"Just a healthy hour workout twice a week, hitting all the body parts". We'd like to hit all those body parts someday.

donna said...

isn't it sad that you have the most responses ever and it's for a headless shot of you.
I always thought your face was your strong point, although I have never seen your other point(have I and I just forgot?)
xx
d

Adam said...

donna i have to agree, his face is damn adorable. the headless shot doenst do him justice at all.

Lyvvie said...

Wait...are you saying not only are all the BuffBods low self-esteemed ego cases, but that they're all gay too??? I'm not going to bother sucking-in my tum anymore if they aren't bothered...geesh!

I think your package is just fine the way it is, but any before shots for comparison *wink*?

Lee said...

Goodness.

(drag)

(drop)

(click)

That picture's gone straight in the Wank Bank.

rayray said...

I have the same body type, I could be bigger but I wouldn't want to do Creatine to get there.

maybe the vapidity is linked to what I call jock-itis, where all the blood in one's body is pumped directly to the muscles, leaving the brain oxygen-starved.

Lightning Bug's Butt said...

Is that Mel Gibson?

Mel said...

nice, nice, nice...