Is hate wired into us? Do we have a natural inclination (or need) for hatred or is it more a product (learning) of our culture, upbringing and station in life?
I've had some form of the following conversation several times in my life with different people:
Me: So what do your bad feelings toward such and such a person do for you. Because you're the only one affected by them. Let it go.
Reply: I don't want to "Let it go", you know sometimes I just need to hate something and feel dark like this.
Me: I'm sure you would agree that it's not a very pleasant state to be in, I don't understand why you do this to yourself.
Reply: Just leave me alone. (or in a few instances) Fuck you Mr. Perfect.
So when I read Bug's piece yesterday (and thanks BTW for post fodder for today) I understood where he was coming from but I felt it was a weak take on the issue of hate. We're programmed to hate so let's acknowledge and embrace it? (You know, men are probably programmed to jack-off in public to attract potential mates too, but that's been trained out of us.)
No, I view hate as a weakness, even a personality defect. This is just me, but over the years I've worked to eliminate hate and resentment because it truly is as they say: Hanging on to resentment is like your eating the rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.
Hate debilitates you, nothing else.
Here, come closer I want to tell you something. It doesn't have to go on like this, after all, nobody picks their toenails at a restaurant.