Thursday, March 05, 2009

Ugh and yay

I hate grading and evaluating. I just want to give everyone full marks for showing up. Life's too short to have someone tell you you suck and that you should work harder. Everyone is different anyway, so how is it just that I evaluate your skills, I mean I can't possibly know if the work you produce is good for someone like you since I'm not you. It's the same at the workplace. Sure there's room for improvement on everything we do, if there weren't, we'd cease being imperfect creatures and instead be gods. (Though even the gods, I suspect, are less than perfect.) I think the individual probably is far more aware of the places in his/her life that need improvement the most. This is true for me anyway. I really don't need you to tell me too.

I've figured out how to achieve chore harmony. He loads the washer and dryer, I remove, fold and put away. He loads the dishwasher and I remove and put away. I think he has the better deal, but at least I don't have to look at the sink and say "this is my job".

15 comments:

franck said...

At the risk of sounding bitter and cynical, having to achieve chore harmony is why I'd rather not move in with someone anytime soon.
Although I do think you deserve full marks for your efforts :-)

Rick said...

We have assignments too. He cooks. I load and dispose the dishwasher (though he helps sometimes). He cleans the house. I wash and fold the laundry (though he helps sometime).

evilganome said...

Maybe I should get a boyfriend and then some of the housework would get done at Maison d'Ganome.

The word verification is tally. I wonder what that means?

Birdie said...

Our chore harmony turned out to be "I did it all for the first thirty years, now it's your turn." I'm enjoying the trade; hubby's become a pretty good cook.

David said...

While I'd prefer to unload the dishwasher, I'd prefer to load the washer and dryer.

Of course I'd prefer to have a boyfriend as well, but that's a whole other story.

GayProf said...

I am with David. Unloading the dishwasher is super easy, but folding clothes feels much more like a chore.

The grading thing is tough. I have even debated about moving to a "everybody gets the same grade" model of teaching. In the end, though, I think that grades can push people to exceed their first efforts.

madamerouge said...

I'll take dirty dishes over dusting, any day of the week. ;-)

A Lewis said...

Just go through all of the papers and put big giant gold stars on the top right corner of every single one. And call it good.

Lightning Bug's Butt said...

You are light and profound at the same time, TW.

Java said...

I really like your sink backsplash. Nice faucet, too. I have one similar to that, and it's so easy to fill pitchers and buckets, etc.

I guess the disharmony here is that no one person is responsible for much of anything specific. Another example of the dysfunction of my life.

Laverne said...

I just wish my dishwasher wasn't those two things at the end of my arms.

Ah, to join the modern life... that's my dream.

christopherc said...

The beauty of a healthy relationship is how symbiotic things such as chores become! It's a relief to know I don't have to do everything anymore.

-C

Roxrocks said...

We have a similar symbiotic relationship here. I do all the work around the house and yard and he makes sure that when I use my bank card, funds are available. Hello, 1952 called and said I don't have to burn my bra.

Phronk said...

I don't enjoy marking either, but mostly because it's boring.

I disagree that most people are self-aware enough to know where they need improvement. I think most are blissfully ignorant of their flaws until they are pointed out. And grading something not only does that, but determines whether they are good enough to get the piece of paper that says they are good enough. I applaud people just for showing up and trying too, but sometimes that alone is not good enough.

So I see the point of marking, even though it blows donkey balls.

Dwayne said...

Love the stones behind the sink.

I hate grading also. You either get it or you don't.

I like doing laundry from start to finish but I hate dishes. Chore harmony? Care if I use that?